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what was going through your head when you gave your first blowjob
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You are awesome. I admire your ideas and your honesty in dealing with the issue of virginity and relationships. Thank you. :)
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Ugh— an update
I have a new boyfriend. The guy I was telling you about earlier. He’s the sweetest. He’s very cute and very smart. My mom says he seems “sexually uptight” though, ha. Anyways, on to what has really been bothering me. A lot.
My ex talked to me for the first time. He told me how much he has missed me, how he wished he never thought he would’ve been better off without me, how much he loves me, and how miserable he’s been. Reminder that this is 3 months later.
I couldn’t say I missed him back or anything. I had to stay strong, but it was so hard. Of course I miss him. We were best friends, and he was my baby. I was all he had.
After talking, and agreeing that is was sort of unrealistic for us to be friends, we ended on a relatively good note.
Until he saw on Facebook that I had a new boyfriend, he felt like he made a total jackass of himself. I feel terrible. He said he thought he had a chance. And I wish he did.
I saw him for the first time when he returned all my things; we hugged. His heart was beating so fast I thought it was going to pop out of his chest. It wasn’t even awkward though, that was like the worst part.
Ugh, this is worst than the breakup. My heart is aching. I know I shouldn’t even think about getting back together—and I won’t because I really like this new guy— but its so hard.
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[Abstinence-only sex ed curricula] rely on offensive, sexist stereotypes about men and women, boys and girls, as a foundational teaching tool and pass it off as “biology.” They portray “real” boys as unable to control themselves, unemotional (particularly about sex), not interested in female desire or sexual satisfaction, not ultimately responsible for their own sexual feelings (which are portrayed as dependent on how girls chose to tempt them) and definitely heterosexual. Girls, on the other hand, are shown as controlling monitors of aggressive male sexuality. In classic Madonna/whore manner, girls, despite being chaste objects of male desire and not “naturally” interested in having sex, are portrayed as temptresses that need to control what they wear and the messages they send. Also heterosexual, they are definitely not capable of managing their own reproductive lives."
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Happy new year everyone!
Here’s to new beginnings, new you, yadda yadda yadda (new years is sort of dumb)
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Coincidence or the inevitable?
Meeting this great guy and actually having him like me has got me thinking lately. Many great and not-so-great things that have been happening to me and that my friends and family may have predicted, I accredit to coincidence. But are these instances truly random? Or were they bond to occur?
When discussing the possibility of sex with my best friend of many years, under the cons list I mentioned my ex’s tendency to be neglectful communication-wise. She warned me that this wasn’t a good sign, and that worst case scenario, he could ignore me afterwards. And she knew this would be devastating to me. Of course, this did end up happening. Was she right? Or were there other factors? And even if there were other factors, does that make it excusable? Without them, would the neglect still have occurred?
After the breakup, of course everyone told me I’d meet a new and better guy quickly. I didn’t believe them because of my low self esteem in general and of course at the time, but that did end up happening as well. Such a great guy (and so cute I may add)…well, he had to be just shear luck. Coincidence, if you will. On the other hand, what if this is just how my life unfolds? I don’t believe everything happens for a reason, but you and the way you live cause things to happen. My ex and his way of living and me and my way of living accepting him caused the disappointing sex situation, but have these past events been because of who I am and the way I live? Or did they just happen? Coincidence or the inevitable? I favor the inevitable, accrediting it to my genuine personality, smarts, and I suppose looks. As a confidence booster of course.
I hope that was followable.
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Don’t overthink, don’t dwell
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Nuevo
I don’t want to say too much about this boy because I really don’t want to mess anything up. But, he is so sweet and we talked for hours and really bonded. And he is the cutest thing in the planet. Unfortunately when we did kiss we were a little drunk, and I hope that doesn’t send off too bad of a message— because you all know that I don’t really do that…ever (and he said he doesn’t either) I’ve heard it through the grapevine that he still wants to “pursue” me, and I really hope everything works out. And even if it doesn’t, this whole thing has just made me ridiculously happy anyways, and that’s always good.
